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Tag: Change

The Hardest Competency To Learn

Some leadership gurus say that given the large list of competencies a leader would strive to develop, the hardest one is "personal learning." I agree.  It's also, in my opinion, the most important.  To me, it's all about self-awareness.  Can I take the blinders off and hold the mirror up to my own face and tell the truth?  Can I not only accept feedback, but also ask for it, knowing that it might be hard to hear. Can I take the feedback I get with grace and a stiff upper lip, say thank you, and then make a plan to change?  And then, can I share my learning with someone and ask them to be an accountability partner and help me change?

 

That's a lot.  And I can tell you with 100% certainty, that if you can do this, you too can be a great leader.
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FEAR...

Our FEARLESS Leader, Chris Kelly, says that FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real.  I think it was Benjamin Franklin that said that fear is simply not having enough information.  The two are related in some sense.  If you're afraid, perhaps a solution is to seek more information.  I know this:  when I recognize that fear is gripping me, that's my cue to take a look at the source of my fear.  Oftentimes fear is recognizing that something is out of my comfort zone.  THAT is an opportunity!  An opportunity to learn and grow and expand that comfort zone, so that the next time I'm sitting in this particular situation, the fear will be lessened.

 

Sounds easy, and it's not.  So, grab a reflection and accountability partner.  Someone to help you deeply understand your fear, and someone to help you navigate the waters that feel unsettled at a minimum or outright stormy.  Grab someone who will virtually hold your hand, encourage you, and walk with you in the fear. 

At the end of it, you'll have a bigger comfort zone, and be able to give yourself a pat on the back because you used fear as a motivator rather than a wall.

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For the Interim Time

I shared this poem with a colleague group this morning, and received a myriad of reactions.  Here it is for your thoughts. Think about night and day as a metaphor for change.  In terms of leadership, I think about increasing self-awareness, and the changes we want to make in ourselves as a result of that increased self-awareness. I'd love YOUR thoughts on this poem and what it means to you!

 

For the Interim Time, by John O'Donohue

When near the end of the day, life has drained

Out of light, and it is too soon

For the mind of night to have darkened things,

No place looks like itself, loss of outline

Makes everything look strangely in-between,

Unsure of what has been or what might come.

In this wan light, even trees seem groundless.

In a while it will be night, but nothing

Here seems to believe the relief of dark.

You are in this time of the interim

Where everything seems withheld.

The path you took to get here has washed out;

The way forward is still concealed from you.

“The old is not old enough to have died away;

The new is still too young to be born.”

You cannot lay claim to anything;

In this place of dusk,

Your eyes are blurred;

And there is no mirror.

Everyone has lost sight of your heart

And you can see nowhere to put your trust;

You know you have to make your own way through.

As far as you can, hold your confidence.

Do not allow your confusion to squander

This call which is loosening

Your roots in false ground,

That you might come free

From all you have outgrown.

What is being transfigured here is your mind,

And it is difficult and slow to become new.

The more faithfully you can endure here,

The more refined your heart will become

For your arrival in the new dawn.

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